Your approach is a little bit beta; you need to be assertive even if this risks driving them away. So that even if you get rejected, you'll know that you didn't show any signs of dependency/desperation. You need to be more dominant and adopt the "idgaf about you" attitude; don't listen to those who tell you otherwise. But you have to be 7+ to pull this off.
5/10 with an "idgaf about you" attitude = ugh, he has a bad personality.
7/10+ with an "idgaf about you" attitude = very assertive, he might be a douchebag, but I'd love to know more about him! I just want him to care about me!