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The mainstream perspective on this forum is that personality represents the real and authentic version of a person. That personality is “innate” and for the most part, unchangeable.

As a result, one's job as a human being is to gather enough information and experience—or, to find the right personality test—in order to adequately “discover” their “hidden” personality. Once one makes this all-important discovery, one is then enabled to build your entire life around that personality. This life one builds may not be the one you’d have chosen for yourself. But it’s the life you were born to live. It’s the hand you were dealt. To do anything otherwise would be disastrous, painful, and delusional.

Through all of this is the underlying assumption: You were born the person you are, and you cannot change that.

Despite wanting to change, people have been led to believe they can’t. Many popular schools of psychology argue that personality is innate and immutable. Fixed.

The reason personality is viewed as fixed is because, as a rule, psychologists place extreme emphasis and value on the past. A core tenant of many personality theories is that the past is the greatest predictor of the future. As Dr. Joseph Rychlak, a psychologist who wrote many foundational textbooks on personality, said, “All scientists believe that behavior is caused by previous events.

The word “cause” is extreme. Being “caused” by the past means you have no choice or possibility in the matter of who you are and what you can do. Instead, you’re forced to accept whatever personality you have.

My argument is that your “personality” doesn’t matter. Even more, your personality is not the most fundamental aspect of who you are. Instead, your personality is surface-level, transitory, and a byproduct of something much deeper. The most fundamental aspect of your humanity is your ability to make choices and stand by those choices, what Viktor Frankl called the last of human freedoms, “To choose one’s own way.” Take this away and you are no longer human.


There are multiple layers and explanations as to why you are the way you are. The layer above your ability to choose—which heavily influence and constrain the choices you make—is the combination of your social and cultural environments, as well as your emotional development as a human being. The more emotionally evolved you become, the less defined you will be by your past and the less constrained you’ll be by your circumstances.

Instead of being fixed, you will be flexible. Instead of avoiding or suppressing emotions, you’ll embrace and be transformed through them.

You’ll courageously pursue the life you truly want—regardless of how “impossible” or difficult it may currently seem to you or those around you. You’ll deal with whatever emotions, learning, or struggles come along the way. Through your learning and experience, you’ll transform as a person. Your circumstances will change. From this moment forward, you can forget about silly personality tests and “types.” Instead, you can decide who you’re committed to being and becoming.


That’s the truth of personality. It’s not innate but trained. It can and does change. It can and should be chosen and designed. Anyone who’s ever done something great with their life had to transform themselves from who they were to who they became. They had to see something new in their mind and convince themselves it was possible. They had to act courageously beyond their current personality and circumstances to eventually do what they did and become who they became. Outsiders may view the hyper-successful or influential as “different” or “unique,” but if you asked those who actually did it, they will always tell you the life they created was their choice.
 

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i appreciate the effort but i just dont got the attention span
 

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psychology students posting rough draft of their essays for fbi agents to read and grade dot net
 

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i read it all. good ass read. no major flaws on the subject matter
 

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include the bibliography for your quotes used please
 

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You should read about psychosocial moratorium
 

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For anyone who thinks innate personality is determined by your genes or childhood years and believes it is unchangeable.
Look up memory reconsilidation and Bruce Ecker. Your brain is very plastic/changeable at any age, just like your bones, muscles and any other organ.
 

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For anyone who thinks innate personality is determined by your genes or childhood years and believes it is unchangeable.
Look up memory reconsilidation and Bruce Ecker. Your brain is very plastic/changeable at any age, just like your bones, muscles and any other organ.
I havent seen a single example of a changed personality


changing personality isnt a real thing
 

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Are you saying a passive melancholic type can become a social friendly or a cholleric high energy type?