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Looks are a necessity for a man



I spammed this to a few forums when SH was down and most of them banned me immediately. I used Rollo Tomassi's blog posts when I cobbled this together. I'm going in a long holiday and won't be posting for a while. Enjoy!


Good looks are the single most important thing for a man who wants to attract a woman. High number of young men will remain single because they're physically unattractive. Traditionally, the less desirable males have become beta providers, but this is becoming less and less feasible because our society's resources are distributed more evenly between the sexes. As a result, more and more women decide to stay single.

1. I see many unattractive men who have wives or girlfriends.
Women place an importance upon looks according to their phase of life. When a woman is past the apex of her sexual market value (30-35yo) and is, graciously or not, accepting this fact looks lose importance in favor of money and status (For a related study of this take the time to read Dr. Martie Hasselton’s study, Why Muscularity is Sexy). Unattractive men often fall into the role of the Cuckold, burneded with the responsibility of raising and providing for another man’s successful reproduction efforts with the woman. He will never enjoy the same benefits as his mates previous physically attractive short term partner(s), in the way of sexual desire and immediacy of it. A prostitute will fuck you for an exchange, it doesn’t mean she wants to. (For a related statistics see a Kaiser institute's publication how often married couples are having sex)

2. Looks are more important for a man.
It is women who have a much higher standard for an idealized male physique. For all the endless kvetching from women about men wanting “living barbie dolls”, it’s men who’ve historically displayed much broader interests in women of different level of attractiveness than women.

This is a calculated feminine convention. In terms of feminine breeding strategies and women’s schedules of mating, it is advantageous for a woman to engage in short-term breeding strategies with physically attractive alpha men during the peak of her sexual viability when she knows there is a social structure ready to accommodate her long-term breeding strategy (i.e. provisioning) with future men. In other words, encourage men to think that “looks aren’t as important to women” so they’ll be more acceptable future providers while breeding in the short-term with men embodying their very specific physical ideal. This is precisely the reason why the “kidult / man-up” phenomenon is so vexing for women today – it threatens this long-term strategy.

3. Personality, sense of humor etc. are more important than good looks.
Although women claim in self-report (i.e. when answering questionnaires) that physical attractiveness is not of primary importance when choosing a partner, according to studies the single best predictor of satisfaction with a ‘blind date’ is facial attractiveness for women. Women automatically ascribe positive personality characteristics to physically attractive men. This is often referred to as the ‘attractiveness halo effect’. As looks and personality are highly correlated, it is impossible for an unattractive man to have a very good personality in a dating world. (https://s3.amazonaws.com/external_c...4/original/looks-v-personality.png?1406643994)

The following empirical test confirms that non-attractive men have very limited mating options. The most attractive men received 91% of all mating options, the medium-high group got 6.3 %, medium group 2.6 % and the low category had 0% of the mating options. (Part 1. https://sirtyrionlannister.wordpress.com/2015/04/17/407/
Part 2. https://sirtyrionlannister.wordpres...-the-mating-pool-size-part-2-female-profiles/ )

4. Women have a hard time too.
The feminine-priority dynamic has put a default value on women’s sexuality. Feminine seduction skills have been replaced with emotional and psychological manipulations in order to make men comply with their imperatives. The one thing most women have in common is a high sense of self-worth. Just reading through female online dating profiles is like going on safari and encountering a virtual cornucopia of rare and exotic animals (kind of like a zoo), each meticulously described in encyclopedic detail of their uniqueness and rarity of finding

Unless a woman is an extreme outlier of physical deformity, there’re plenty of men who feel attraction to her. You don’t need an extensive research to prove this.  All one need to do is search the vast variety of porn available catering to the physical attributes that men will fetishize. There are countless “chubby chaser” websites dedicated to catering to this particular “fetish” for men, but not a single one exists for women. The standard for ideal masculinity remains constant for females by the lack of “fetishes” for obese males. There is such a demand in society by men seeking fat women that businesses have been developed in order meet it, but there is no similar demand on the part of fit women (or one not sufficient enough to register) seeking overweight men.

A profile was made for a girl with literal pig body parts and male chest hair: http://developedman.com/online-dating-heralds-apocalypse-western-men/

5. How does this manifest itself in a society?
The growing tendency of women to overshadow the masculine is a sign of a deteriorating civilization. Woman's determined competition with man in the business world is breaking down some of the best traditions, things which have proved the moving factors in the world's slow but substantial progress. Practically all the great achievements of man until now have been inspired by his love and devotion to woman.

Many men have now resorted to PUA to discover confidence, learn conversation starters, master body language and so on. In reality, these make practically no difference when it comes to creating attraction. Some of these men are successful, running companies or holding upper five-figure or six-figure jobs. However, many of them will come to the crushing realization that those resume accomplishments mean nothing when it comes to generating attraction; especially after their wives fuck their good looking poolboys; divorce them, and gallop into the sunset with all of their worldly possessions.

6. You're a misogynistic, loser and/or <any negative adjective>.
This is the totality of the feminine-centric reality. Men only exist to facilitate the feminine reality, and any man who disputes this (or even analyzes its aspects) is therefore not a ‘man’. I knew I was heading into dangerous territory with this but I realize that all truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.


Jul 3, 2015
It's so tragic how even the slightest hint of looks mattering to women gets you perma-banned or ridiculed by reddit neck-beards who can't think for themselves.


Jul 25, 2020
Great thread! It's sad when a "guest" ThreadMogs 99.9% of users on this site.