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I have this problem too. Craving social interaction as a lifelong loner yet inevitably feeling alienated whenever I am welcomed to whatever social group I end up in, and learning that I would prefer to be alone anyway. The isolation cycles in intensity and seems impossible to escape.I didn't feel comfortable socializing with people from my previous social circles but I am not particularly happy with the current roster of friends either. Perceived loneliness (subjective feelings of being lonely despite having been around people) is what I suffer from the most.
I believe the key issue is the lack of motivation to socialize or meet new people in my case. I don't like most of the people and I prefer spending time with myself but I suffer this way because people are made to socialize, it's a must, a basic need that needs to be fulfilled in order for a human to function properly. If you force yourself to socialize while lacking a motivation to do it, it can never work, no matter how great all the relationships appear to be on the surface.
yep exactly how i am tooI have this problem too. Craving social interaction as a lifelong loner yet inevitably feeling alienated whenever I am welcomed to whatever social group I end up in, and learning that I would prefer to be alone anyway. The isolation cycles in intensity and seems impossible to escape.
Good thread. A lot of these articles describe aspects of my life spot on sadly.
U can just depends on how you do it.normie social interaction has to flow in context
you can't just bring up random topics whenever you want
That paranoia thing really hits close with me. I've become so fucking paranoid about shit. Doesn't help that I live in a place where I actually have a reason to be worried as well.some of this is just too fucking brutal
make a thread on this and tag me bro....You have to get good at crafting a high value image of yourself in people’s heads about your identity and status and who you are and the rest will follow.
if you don’t get good at that you will never be able to fit in socially.
Most people here have no idea or way to do this or somehow never learned which is why they constantly seem on the bottom socially to people.
your reputation and image is your life socially never forget this.
damn, even 6'4 aussie gigachads r struggling out there, like, wtf man... life is beyond dogshit for males in 2020make a thread on this and tag me bro....
my reputation socially is very low
the problem is being around people doesnt really interest me, i get really bored around people and im a bad actor so people can tell
NTs get really irritated if they think you're bored around them or don't talk that much, it makes them feel very insecure which they hate
looks were never really my problem and also guessing they're not yours and 99% of this forum, this is all bc of fucked up brain chemistry and neurotransmittersdamn, even 6'4 aussie gigachads r struggling out there, like, wtf man... life is beyond dogshit for males in 2020
being hyper emphatic did indeed fuck up my life. the moment i started being narcy & egoistic, life started to improve... this clown world tbhlooks were never really my problem and also guessing they're not yours and 99% of this forum, this is all bc of fucked up brain chemistry and neurotransmitters