08-05-2015, 09:31 PM
Quote:this is due to oxytocin in the brain, and vasopressin....
Oxytocin has also been shown to be involved in social situations. A person who has low oxytocin levels has social anxiety, fears, lack of trust in others, etc. And a person who has high oxytocin levels is very social can bond and connect with others easily, is trusting, doesn't ahve social anxiety, etc.
All because of sex too.
The problem becomes though that a person who has low oxytocin levels can find it hard to get higher oxytocin levels since it requires one to have a good range of oxytocin levels to get more oxytocin, but they dont have that to begin with so they can't even make connections with other people, and in fact others avoid them. They can just sense it.
People think it's just easy, one has to smile, and be friendly, etc. But the problem is that with low oxytocin levels it all becomes fake and unsatisfying. Oxytocin levels actually controls the capacity to make such magical bonds, making it impossible for one with low oxytocin, because bonding is a result of the oxytocin level, if one doesn't know how to feel love, and make themselves feel love, they have no recollection of it, they cant summon love. And connection therefore becomes also a magical thing they just can't do.. it's a magical click that happens magically, and only for those chosen ones, and not him/herself. Ie, the connection is just something they can't control, it happens spontaneously. And that's something unattainable, because people actually subconsciously sense your oxytocin levels and respond to it on an unconscious level and Blocks connection. Thus, it just happens on its own.
So if a person has high oxytocin levels.. that person can make spontaneous bonds and connections/sparks with people even at a significant distance apart.
Thus, if a person starts off with low oxytocin levels, unless a person IS aware of this type of thing,it's just a downward spiral. or just stays the same. At the least, it's just, like, difficult. So you have to find a way to make that oxytocin on your own, but oxytocin depends on bonds you make with other people, which again, depend on oxytocin, which again depends on an ample beginning supply of oxytocin.
Ain't it funny this is all due to sex? If not just sex, then social relationships in general, which also connects and depend on sex since sex and culture and society are tightly intertwined that they become inter-dependent on each other?
Man some people just don't get it.